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Almond Butter Smoothie

Lately, I’ve been more mindful of the benefits of eating in. Not only do we reduce our carbon footprint by eating locally, seasonally, but also, we eat better 🙂 Cooking at home is a simple delight to share with the ones you love, and a tradition for better health, longevity and well-being.

I grew up with morning shakes in Brasil. My mom would blend leftover ingredients together to make delicious shakes. I’m now always drawn to shakes packed with healthy ingredients that are naturally sweetened and less like dessert replacement. Somehow though, this nutritionally balanced banana almond smoothie is so delicious- never mind FULL filling. It tastes like home to me.

Almond butter smoothie for 1

1 1/2 frozen bananas

1/2 cup Greek yogurt

1/4 cup sweetened vanilla almond milk

2 tablespoons almond butter

Honey (optional)

Blend

 

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More Than Time

Becca and I have remained the greatest of friends. I think our bond stands the test of time and distance because when together, we make it count.

Last weekend, Becca took a break from her busy practicum to come visit from San Francisco and we caught up over rosé and lattes, our favorites. Here I thought I’d share some of our tips for a friendship that withstands, paired with our favorite coffee stops along the way (in Williamsburg, BK).

Make room at Butler

Life is busy and bustling. For a friendship to endure, first make space for it. Make space in your calendar and space in your heart. Only then can you really cherish it and not feel rushed or burdened by it. Really being with a person makes all of the difference in the quality of your relationship and taking the time to plan ahead shows you value it.

Savor it at Marlow & Sons

For a friendship to withstand, and especially long distance, you need the greatest memories and a feel of home to hold on to when you think about that person. Good friends display empathy and a level of synchronization that I believe naturally happens when you’re really present. Put away distractions to really connect.

Share at Toby’s Estate 

Sharing is caring and it’s as simple as the expression says. To be selfless and when it’s hardest to be, will strengthen your bond. Even as simple as giving up a night of studying if your friend really needs you. It should always be reasonable of course, but you’ll both remember getting over a hump together, over a quiz you didn’t ace.

Play at The End

So much is already at stake, from jobs to careers to paying bills to aging parents and and and. Friendship should counteract life and feel like whipped cream: sweet and fluffy. A good test of the quality of your friendship is if you often feel drained or lighter in your step after spending time together. A good laugh can cure a shitty day better than a bottle of fancy red, plus it’s less caloric.

Indulge at Dépanneur

We live in a world of striving for perfect. Perfect selfies, perfectly designed latte foams, perfect lives. I think a good friendship should feel like a hiding place to let all of that go. A place where you can indulge in ideas, philosophies, and dreams together without feeling judged. Also, only by relating with one another with open hearts can a friendship really withstand, and often we put each other at ease by just being human and not selling a pretense. It should feel safe to say, “I don’t know,” with a good friend.

Refill at Devoción

Like anything worthwhile, a good friendship takes a lot of investing, and from both sides. You can’t water it once a month and expect it to stay blooming. With a million ways to connect these days, it’s easy to let a friend know you’re thinking of them. It shouldn’t take much time either, and it should feel easy. A friendship that withstands should never feel forced or one-sided, but free, fulfilling and precious.

 

This post was inspired by JORD Watches’ mission to #makeitcount. Watch worn above is my favorite of their collection, the Frankie in navy. Try your chance at $100 towards a JORD gift with my contest link by entering here. You win $25 just by entering.

 

 

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When Millerton Calls

My favorite things to do when in the village of Millerton are visiting friends at the farm just minutes from the small downtown and antique shopping destination, going out for the best pizza in town and watching for sunsets and fireflies. Here’s my travel guide of the senses for the next time you’re en route.

 

If I were a store: Anthropologie

The smell of: charcoal, summer dew, your grandfather’s closet

The feel of: your oldest sweater

Bring: rosewater spray, Hunter boots, Laphroaig

Not to miss: Chaseholm Farmstore for fresh cheese, raw milk, salumi

 

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In Good Company

I admit. I’m tired.

A few nights ago, a friend asked me what I had done during the days just before seeing her, and I honestly paused in disbelief because I couldn’t quite remember.

With the over-worked and over-connected world in which we live in, it’s no wonder more and more of us are seeking pause and refuge. And refuge as derived from the French word meaning “to flee.”

I was speaking with a HR rep who said she, and her 50 person fund-of-funds firm (with oh, just billions in assets), had been practicing a Japanese act of purging excess (aren’t we all just a little ironic?)

She says the practice asks you to sit with something you own to determine whether or not you absolutely LOVE IT because if you don’t LOVE IT, it challenges you to purge it instead.

I thought how fascinating it is that every culture has a practice to convey the same thing: the desire for less and meaning.

For me, Danish hygge is just that. A practice that is linked to the idea that real wealth is not what we can accumulate over time but what we have to share with others, and only if we LOVE IT.

I had an opportunity a few weeks back to disregard my iCal and jump in a rental to simply be with friends. Some of them I hadn’t seen in years. Others, only via Facetime.

Was it an easy decision? No. I thought, but what will it cost? How will I get back for my appointments on Wednesday? Do I have the right shoes? (Really)

And then I paused and thought of each of those familiar faces I hadn’t seen. And how much I LOVE them.

Life goes by so fast that, if we’re not careful and sensitive to it, we miss it.

I will never forget that one weekend spent learning about farm and field and moving cattle in the afternoons. Feeling the mug in the air from an early summer coming.

Early evenings cooking food together and honoring their sources. Laughing and playing until our eyes were closing and sleeping in until you could smell the coffee brewing.

The taste of fresh cow’s milk. The smell of crimson strawberries. The scare of ticks on our skin.

That weeping willow.

The sweetness of old memories.

The looking forward’s

 

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How to Make Him Think You Have a Lover

Select from the following options:

  • Have flowers delivered to yourself and then thank your boyfriend for the thoughtful gesture.
  • Save your sister’s number under the name Paul H.
  • Appear lost in thought: sit by a window and stare into space.
  • Cry from time to time for no reason.
  • Don’t answer his calls; but send him gushing texts.
  • Shower frequently. Spend extra time in the bathroom.
  • Buy yourself some new lingerie or take up smoking again.

 

Excerpt from How to be Parisian Wherever You Are by Anne, Audrey, Caroline and Sophie

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The Dev

New York City is truly the coolest little/big hub. A total cluster fudge of walks of life, story, taste. I love that at any given minute, you can meet the love of your life or, your new favorite cocktail.

Where: Antica Pesa, Williamsburg

What: The Dev, a magical sage and gin drink (and totally off the menu/secret!) by full time songstress, part time magical drink maker, Devon Rae

 

 

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Turquoise Seas

I remember leaning my head out in the wind, while driving along the high cliffs, day dreaming over turquoise seas of Amalfi.

I wondered about living off a lighthouse nearby and writing about the people from up high.
What I imagined their lives to be like, their hopes, their loves.

It’s probably why I fell for pretending to be a thousand personalities but longed for a place to belong to all at the same time. My parents believe the best gifts you give are trips to see the world and that’s what we did. I say they instilled in us a wonder for people and lust for places near and far.

How fitting that I would end up in a city like New York. Where one can pry, and disappear, all at the same time.

 

 

Image by Mike Perkins 

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Forest in a Bowl

Lately, I’ve been more mindful of the benefits of eating in. Not only do we reduce our carbon footprint by eating locally, seasonally, but also, we eat better 🙂 Cooking at home is a simple delight to share with the ones you love, and a tradition for better health, longevity and well-being.

Breakfast is my favorite meal of the day. And when I came across what looks like a forest in a bowl (veggies for breakfast? Yes please!) I was intrigued. Simple, delicious and packed with flavor, this recipe is a great green juice substitute that’s good for belly and skin.

Ingredients for 2

sea salt

1/4 pound leeks, white part only, finely chopped

1/4 pound baby spinach

4 spears of green asparagus

3 1/2 cups chicken stock

1 piece of kombu seaweed, approx. 0.7 ounce

1 teaspoon matcha green tea powder

1/2/ cup fresh or frozen baby peas

1 granny smith apple, skin on, cored and chopped into small cubes

How to

1. Bring a big pot of water to a boil and add a generous pinch of sea salt. Blanch the chopped leeks for 7 minutes and refresh in ice-cold water. Then blanch the spinach and asparagus for 1 minute each and refresh in ice-cold water.

2. Heat the stock with the kombu seaweed. Once it is simmering, take a few tablespoons of stock out and add it to a bowl with the matcha tea, little by little, while stirring. First you’ll have a thick paste, then add more stock until you have a runny mixture.

3. Add the peas to the pan of stock and heat for another 2 minutes, then add the leeks, spinach, asparagus, chopped apple, and the blended matcha tea. Discard the kombu. Remove the pan from the heat, stir, and serve.

 

Top London nutritionist Amelia Freer stands out for her love of nutrient dense recipes, hate for diet fads, and belief in the true healing powers of food. Get more of her recipes here.

Image and recipe from her cookbook, Cook. Nourish. Glow. 

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Red Hot American Days

Holly Golightly: I’m like cat here, a no-name slob. We belong to nobody, and nobody belongs to us. We don’t even belong to each other.

I was born to bright swirls of yellows and greens in the sky, blue bright waves crashing by, Brasil.

My mother remarried and we moved to the States for a safer place to live. When we did, I wanted to be everything American too, like our new grandmother Patsy. A beloved nurse, a wife to a war hero, she was just like the movies.

My sister and I didn’t speak much English then, and we’d sit quietly on the bed watching Patsy put on her drop earrings last. When they came, we were ready.

I’ll never forget our summers spent with her in Texas at the lake. Red hot American days spent eating ice cream and renting VHS tapes from Patsy’s favorite place, the local library.

I remember rushing home to watch Hepburn, Taylor, Vivien Leigh say things and feel things we couldn’t possibly understand.

The only thing that quenched our thirst more then, were Patsy’s famous ice cold, pink lemonades.

The title of this blog is a tribute to her, to American film and the stories of our lives.

 

 

Image from Pleasantville

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Hyggelig

My favorite date place?

The library.

With myself, with a girlfriend, with anyone who gets as excited about hardcovers as I do. And perhaps she’s to blame.

If I ever have a whole day off, I like to hop on the train and walk to a bookstore or library. Whichever one is still standing unfortunately. There’s nothing sweeter than grabbing a coffee drink and strolling along the many aisles of unread books while caffeinated. Piling the few that look good and then scoring a nook someplace warm to leaf through them. And if I go with someone, I like to leaf and share and then pry through theirs.

I’ve never really considered myself an extrovert and this probably proves it.

On one of my dates alone, I was particularly interested in the Danish way of living. I always wondered why they’re the happiest people. And so I piled on all of the books I could find on the matter and I discovered, while eating croissant, that there is a method to the happiness- hygge!

I won’t bore you over something you can google for more, but, in a nutpost, hygge is undefined but closely defined as “coziness of the soul.” And if that’s too aloof for you, a hug in English is the closest feeling.

Comfort, conviviality, simple indulgence and well being are hygge’s means of pleasure. Cooking with feel good foods from forest, field, farm, partaking in cake and buzzy drinks with friends, indulging in good kinship, maintaining a simply designed but efficient home to leave more time with dog, not cleaning up, spending time with nature and appreciating it even if from afar, these are some of the ways to hygge. And now my favorite means to happy.